An Open Letter

When I started this blog, my intent was for a place to vent my musings on “nerdy” topics, mainly television and movies. It was intended as a place of lists, links, and, of course, rants. However, it was also intended as a place to vent my frustrations with this sub-culture, if we can still even call it that (thus my labeling of it as nerd-pop-culture). While I would like to remain apolitical, I will not remain amoral.

I’m not much a gamer, so I moved my one game hobby to another space. I can easily say I’m pretty far removed from the video-game community. But it’s still part of the greater nerd-sphere (that’s a thing, right?), so this is an open letter to the pathetic misogynists that inhabit it:


This is abuse of women. It is misogyny, and it is nothing more. It is not a campaign against a scam artist. Here’s the deal: Sarkeesian started a kickstarter campaign to raise money for a series of videos detailing her opinions, backed up by research, about how women are portrayed in video games. You assaulted her verbally without waiting to even hear those opinions.

I’d like to point out that Sarkeesian and her defendants had responded with reason and intelligence. I’d also like to point out that you responded, in turn, with violence, threats, and abuse, bereft of anything resembling a rational argument. You clearly already know you don’t have a real argument, or you think insults and harassment constitute a real argument, so I’m not going to try and argue with you on it, because that’s hopeless. I’m just going to come out and tell you exactly what I feel is going on here.

Your world is changing: You can’t get away with calling people faggots on the internet because they stole your legendary drop, or spawn-camped you, or zerg-rushed you. You can’t get away with mashing the keyboard with one hand to write TITS OR GTFO anymore. You can’t keep pretending that this shit:

Isn’t sexist. Because it is.

So what do you do? Throw around words like Slut, Prude, Cunt, Feminist, Bitch, etc… You make video games about abusing women and pretend that it’s sexist to decry violence against woman. You use fallacious arguments about how there’s so much violence in video-games against men to defend a disgusting assault against an individual whose crime was to suggest there might be a problem with sexism in gaming? Yeah, you’ve really made a compelling argument against that.

But all of these violent reactions to people (that is, WOMEN), doing something as horrible as stating an opinion about your toys is symptomatic of one thing: Your fear. You have no rational response or argument. You are afraid of a changing world where you will not be allowed to act like idiot man-children without fear of repercussion. So you lash out like a cornered animal.

But it’s not working, is it? The opposite happened: Sarkeesian raised way more, way faster, than expected. Because the world is changing, and people are growing very, very tired of your shit.

We’re done with it. We’re done with you, until you want to rejoin the conversation like adults.

Here’s a list. Like I said, I like them.

*Calling a woman a derogatory name in defense of sexism is stupid. Harassing a woman, or anyone, because they challenge you, or call out the problems in the things you like, does not help your case, at all.

*Threatening someone because of their opinion is not only stupid, it is fucking horrible. It makes you a bad person. You bring yourself down, and everyone around you. You bring our species down.

*Making a video game about assaulting a specific woman, because she insults your plaything, is very different than violence in other video-games. If you don’t understand that, I’m not sure what can help you.

*The fact that there is violence in video-games does not make it okay for you to make such a game.

*That men are often portrayed ridiculously in comics and games does not make it okay for women to be.

*Sexism does cut both ways. When we bring women down to the level of objects, we bring ourselves down as well.

*Sex positivism, sexy imagery, and nudity are very different from objectification and sexism.

*We can examine these differences together. I’m sure that’s part of what Sarkeesian is doing.  You aren’t wanting to hear it though

*There is sexism towards men in culture as well. Pointing this out does not excuse sexism towards women. Eventually we will see that these are one in the same, and using one as an excuse for the other does not work.

*Finally, nerd culture is rife with sexism and misogyny. The fact that other aspects of our culture are as well does not make it okay.  Same as the above argument.

Here are some links, because I like those too:

Who said it much more succinctly than me.

Kate Beaton, who is amazing, and hilarious.

A very cool tumblr with some unfortunate database problems. Not sure it’s updating anymore.

And of course:

Because whether or not you agree with her, it’s not to scary to listen to, right? You don’t have to give her money, but you definitely don’t have to verbally assault her.


This lady, who has awesome videos, has received death threats along with photos of her apartment. That is just the epitome of cowardice.

That’s it. Thanks.

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One Response to An Open Letter

  1. Melia says:

    Frane…you’re cool.

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